A lot of things we hear these days about becoming successful and creating a better life. There are many teachers and philosophers those who talk about this. Many of these thoughts are useful and effective when used properly. To become successful requires so many qualities like Positive Thinking, Self-esteem, Passion, Taking risks, Leadership, Focus etc.
One of my favorite success coach is Mr. Jack Canfield. I once came across the “Poker Chip Theory OF Self- Esteem”
“This theory states that – If two people went to a casino with 10$ to bet and one with 100$, the person with 10$ is going to bet more cautiously because if he looses even 5$ he is out of the game, where as the other person can lose 5$ twenty times to be out of the game, even if he looses 10 times he is still in the game. Therefore they can bet more freely and self-esteem is the same way.
If I have low self-esteem I tend not to risk as much – I don’t share my ideas in staff meeting I don’t risk investing money, I don’t ask people out on dates, I am afraid to make requests and stand up for my self, because I have such a low self-esteem that if I lose by being rejected or by loosing in the eyes of others, my self-esteem level will be zero. Therefore I do everything I can to protect what little I have. Soon these type of people become very defensive, they don’t play, they don’t play, they withdraw from life”. It means that our self-esteem is like poker chips if you have a lot of poker chips you will play more freely.
To be successful, it’s important for people to build up their self-esteem and their confidence, partially by having successes – which build up your confidence – but also by taking care of your psychological functions. Most people don’t even realize they have these functions and that they’re responsible for controlling and maintaining them.